The beginning and ending of your online relationship

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In a world where singles are becoming frustrated waiting for the perfect guy, the kind of guy who ‘makes your blood hot and wakes you with butterflies in your stomach’. Sigh! Blood hot indeed… isn’t that hypertension? I’m sorry. I’m a hopeless romantic myself so I’m not meaning to hurt anyone’s feelings. But the truth is true love is indeed hard to find. Very few people are fortunate to find it and if perchance they become unfortunate to lose it, they may never find it again.

So in the frustration of desperately wanting to be in a relationship, the option of dating online I suppose stares you in the face. There must be a lot of dating and meeting platforms online these days. You can to meet people who tend to be articulate, telling you exactly those things you want to hear. Looking at their pictures, you are so sure you’ve found that special one only for you. Hold up! Please note, that these social mediums are what it is – make believe. Damn, not even pictures are real anymore with all the filtering options on your smartphone. So how are you sure you are talking to that person whom you’ve painted the perfect picture of a beautiful future with?

Or perchance you meet him/her, is he/her the same as the pictures – lucky you! But is she/he as articulate as they seem to be in your chats? Are they as warm as you perceive from a distance? Are they sweet? Everything you perceive them to be? Everything you want them to be? If so and they are that amazing, how come they haven’t been bagged before you came along? What happened in their relationship or previous relationship if you are that lucky?

I’m a firm believer in asking questions. I like to know everything, even though I can’t get all the answers in one sitting or even get the right answers all from one person. But I don’t like to be carried away with the fancy face or scenario and forget the important thing(s).

Note, too, that online relationships are best kept where you picked them up – online. You may find that you are unable to communicate as freely as you were while chatting or unable to co-exist as you dream of. No matter how unhappy you think you are, frustrated and desperate, you need to go into any relationship with all your senses wide awake. And grabbing someone from the internet might not be for you. Whoever is for you, you need to know the person, understand what you are getting into so that when you do, you alone will be responsible for your decision, not your perception of what was not.

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15 thoughts on “The beginning and ending of your online relationship

  1. I actually met my husband online, playing canasta in yahoo games! The day I was supposed to fly to meet him the first time he called in a panic. What if it’s a lie? What if I’m 500 lbs? It was kind of adorable lol

  2. Biko tell them. I am a realistic romantic. The heat is hypertension and the butterflies might be gas. Online relationships are fraught with danger. I have a friend who actually got married to the girl he met online. They are both Nigerians, he lives in States and she in Naija. It turned out when she came to the US that she is stark raving mad!

  3. It wasnt for me. I met this London boy online and fell hard. Unfortunately he was a professional liar. Every word and i mean every word was a lie. I learnt early and got out asap.

  4. I see a few happy ending stories associated with online dating…I tend to think if I was to get into it big time I may not be one of the few. Frankly, I am too paranoid for the online dating world.

  5. social media vulnerability isn’t something to be indulged really. Never was a fan of that. Only desperate people seek love on the internet in my opinion

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