When I uploaded the post for Monday, I hadn’t planned for it. In between work and busy schedule, it gets difficult to find time to keep up with my favorite blogs. And then when I get recognitions such as this from Dialogue from the Depths nominating me for the One Lovely Blog Award, it not only makes my day. It gives me a renewal of strength and love for what I do. So I say a big THANK YOU for this recognition. I am honored.
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Lydia likes to plan herself and assess situations before diving in. she likes to think and re-think, analyze and ask questions at least to eliminate the dangers ahead. She knows she cannot guarantee all will be well but she wants to be sure she has done her homework and minimized every possible downturn. Is that a wise practice?
Man proposes but God disposes. Lydia knows she can plan all she wants but it doesn’t eliminate the unexpected sudden blessings that will come her way or avert the unanticipated failures that she will experience. It’s all part of the beauty of life. Yes – beauty. If we were to know everything, then we wouldn’t have to try anymore. We wouldn’t have to learn. We wouldn’t have to even serve God because then we would be Gods ourselves.
These things cloud her thoughts. Confusion and frustration sets in when things aren’t going her way. Lydia’s wish is to be the perfect servant to God, daughter to my parents, wife to one husband, and mother to her children. It is possible, isn’t it? But then he says to Lydia, don’t take yourself too seriously. Even Lydia wishes she doesn’t overthink everything all the time.
What would be your advice to Lydia and everyone in like regard?
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Originally posted on Dream Big, Dream Often:
Too often we conduct our lives in such a way that life actually runs us instead of vice versa. I have used the term “live an intentional life” in the past when discussing this, but what does it actually mean? To me, living a life of intention means…
See how beautifully realistic Scarlet Pen articulates these quality suggestions that can put marriage in a perspective or back in perspective of your dream and happiness.
In a world where singles are becoming frustrated waiting for the perfect guy, the kind of guy who ‘makes your blood hot and wakes you with butterflies in your stomach’. Sigh! Blood hot indeed… isn’t that hypertension? I’m sorry. I’m a hopeless romantic myself so I’m not meaning to hurt anyone’s feelings. But the truth is true love is indeed hard to find. Very few people are fortunate to find it and if perchance they become unfortunate to lose it, they may never find it again.
So in the frustration of desperately wanting to be in a relationship, the option of dating online I suppose stares you in the face. There must be a lot of dating and meeting platforms online these days. You can to meet people who tend to be articulate, telling you exactly those things you want to hear. Looking at their pictures, you are so sure you’ve found that special one only for you. Hold up! Please note, that these social mediums are what it is – make believe. Damn, not even pictures are real anymore with all the filtering options on your smartphone. So how are you sure you are talking to that person whom you’ve painted the perfect picture of a beautiful future with?
Or perchance you meet him/her, is he/her the same as the pictures – lucky you! But is she/he as articulate as they seem to be in your chats? Are they as warm as you perceive from a distance? Are they sweet? Everything you perceive them to be? Everything you want them to be? If so and they are that amazing, how come they haven’t been bagged before you came along? What happened in their relationship or previous relationship if you are that lucky?
I’m a firm believer in asking questions. I like to know everything, even though I can’t get all the answers in one sitting or even get the right answers all from one person. But I don’t like to be carried away with the fancy face or scenario and forget the important thing(s).
Note, too, that online relationships are best kept where you picked them up – online. You may find that you are unable to communicate as freely as you were while chatting or unable to co-exist as you dream of. No matter how unhappy you think you are, frustrated and desperate, you need to go into any relationship with all your senses wide awake. And grabbing someone from the internet might not be for you. Whoever is for you, you need to know the person, understand what you are getting into so that when you do, you alone will be responsible for your decision, not your perception of what was not.
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Great weekend it was, yea?
It was restful for me, quiet and normal. Not until I got to work this morning and all I’m hearing is, how did you spend your valentine’s day yesterday? Like seriously, don’t let today be a drag already.
Don’t get me wrong, I love surprises. I love parties. I love love … urr … or maybe I used to. I don’t know anymore. Can I blame it on maturity? Growing responsibilities? Tiredness? Whatever it is, I am grateful for one thing … crap that, I’m grateful for a lot of things – family, work, good health and life. So yes, that’s how my Valentine’s Day went. It went and I am still grateful.
Now Easter, that’s a celebration to look forward to. 😀
Have a great day y’all.
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This is not a good time to be in conflict with your partner. In fact, no time is good to be in difference with your spouse. Valentine or not. However, I heard someone say conflict is needed in any relationship in exchange for a better one. Even if that is true, it doesn’t make the idea of conflict appeal to me any more than it did. Although only few couples like to admit it, conflict is common to all marriages. We have had our share of conflict and some of our disagreements have not been pretty. Since every marriage has its moment of tension, I suppose bringing to limelight how to deal with these tensions is inevitable. Conflict can lead to a process that develops oneness or destruction. You and your spouse must choose how you will act when conflict occurs to derive the oneness you want in your home.
1.Resolving a conflict requires an open avenue for communicating your differences and disagreements with your spouse – be objective, not emotional
2.Resolving conflict requires knowing, accepting, and adjusting to your differences. We don’t all come from the same background; have the same ideals and opinions so leave room for some adjusting.
3.Resolving conflict requires defeating selfishness. No one, by default, wants to put anyone else before themselves. By defeating selfishness, it doesn’t entirely mean you are forfeiting your desires for your spouse but you need to let go of the opinion that it is all about you.
4.Resolving conflict requires pursuing the other person. If the ultimate in your marriage is the peace and happiness of your home, then you should know it’s neither about you nor your partner. It’s God and God is love. If you let love reign in your marriage, then pursuing the well-being of the other person becomes your priority.
5.Resolving conflict requires loving confrontation. Now, as crazy and difficult as this may seem, it does have its benefit if you have checked and cleared the following that your emotions are not getting the better of you.
6.Resolving conflict requires accepting and forgiveness. The key to maintaining an open, intimate, and happy marriage is to ask for and grant forgiveness quickly. And the ability to do that is tied to each individual’s relationship with God.
Yoruba people say (translated) – the good things deserve prayers; the things that are also lacking deserve prayers. As stated in the opening paragraph, every marriage has its moment of tension and if this is not managed and addressed properly, delicately, it can lead to isolation and the destruction of your hard work. Know that it is not by your efforts alone though, because by yourself, you can do nothing. The institute of marriage has become the most attacked by the enemy. Your spouse is not your enemy. Put in your efforts to fighting the enemy out of your marriage. Let the wise Word God of guide you.
Note, choose your battles. Not every mole is worth making a mountain of.
Forget every issue, forgive every hurt and love like you’ve never loved before. 😉
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