When we were young, life was easier. Right? I know sometimes it seems that way. But the truth is life still is easy. It always will be. The only difference is we’re older, and the older we get, the harder we make things for ourselves.
You see, when we were young we saw the world through simple, hopeful eyes. We knew what we wanted and we had no biases or concealed agendas. We liked people who smiled. We avoided people who frowned. We ate when we were hungry, drank when we were thirsty, and slept when we were tired.
As we grew older our minds became gradually disillusioned by negative external influences. At some point we began to hesitate and question our instincts. When a new obstacle or growing pain arose, we stumbled and fell down. This happened several times. Eventually we decided we didn’t want to fall again, but rather than solving the problem that caused us to fall, we avoided it all together.
… More 18 Ways You’re Making Your Life Harder Than It Has To Be
For many married couples, falling in love and saying “I do” was the easy part. Living happily ever after is the part that takes a whole lot of work. I sought out some honest advice from real people who might have insight as to what makes a marriage stand the distance. I reached out to all the married couples and divorcées I knew and asked them the burning question, “What’s the secret to making a marriage successful?” Read their words of wisdom below….
1. Affection breeds more affection. Touch each other, kiss each other good morning, and have plenty of se.x (even when you’re old!). It’s too easy to get out of the habit, which makes you feel distant. Intimacy and physical affection really help keep you connected.
Share everything with each other. Most importantly, everything you are feeling. There is no way to be on common ground if you don’t communicate how you’re feeling.
… More Secret of Successful Marriage
There’s no doubt that each year comes with its own ups and downs and no two years can be the same. Heck, not even any two days can be the same. We strive, hustle, aiming for better days year on year. It’s the end of another year and I am thankful for family, friends, work, innovation, initiative, today and hopeful for what tomorrow brings.
I have worked a year, non-stop this year. No relocation or moving houses – thank God! I have watched my children grow older, more intelligent and achieved more this year – and I almost had nothing to do with it. It’s all God and their devotion to shine. My husband and I have grown together, more matured and more responsible. I have cried less this year – yes, I used to be a cry cry baby but like I said, I’m more mature now and I deal with situations better.
… More 2015’s ending: Recounting 365 days
Just like air is to life and life is to living, that is what writing is to me
Filling the pages of my life, giving me some form of direction and reflection.
When I have a thought in my head, which I usually always do,
I think of penning it down
Some more worthy of posting than others
Helping to teach, enlighten and pass a message across
First, to myself then others
Even from young, I had always been obsessed with enlightening the youths
Nigeria needs more enlightened and intelligent youths
… More My love for writing
How do you know if your man’s crazy about you? There are certain things to watch for in your relationship and certain things he might do. If you see any of these then know that your man is crazy in love with you. It’s a beautiful thing to realize your relationship is amazing!
… More Romantic Things Men Do …
It all seem to me that this year though, under the regime of ‘Change’, Christmas or the preceding days before Christmas isn’t what it used to be. Just yesterday, Christmas eve, in broad day light, decorations were going on in front of the Lagos State Secretariat. Like seriously? Is there need for that anymore? Oh well, i’m sure there’s some sort of explanation or reason. Or perhaps, the budget for that was cut/cancelled so the civil servants can get some sort of allowance or benefit this year. What do I know? But some say, it’s not looking good in the other parts of the country as well.
… More The first Christmas under the Change regime: Nigeria situations
Merry Christmas to you. May the. JOY of the season rest and abide with you 😇🎄 … More Merry Christmas from me to you!
Truth be told, marriage is a big deal. It’s no child’s play. Only those with matured minds should venture into it. And God forbid you immediately start having kids, and then it’ll be easy for the couple to fall apart. They begin to have issues from immaturity to care for a little one, the responsibilities that come with a growing family and running the home. Then two income isn’t enough for the family talk less of one; pressures arising from all sides. Phew! Marriage isn’t always a bed of roses. God help us.
I said it before if you’re looking for a relationship to complete you, you will consistently feel very lacking so let’s also get that cleared. No one can provide you what you lack in yourself and you hope to survive on someone else’s strength. That someone else is not God or a magic genie, or a unicorn with wish-granting abilities. Your spouse is human. If you’re putting unrealistic mythical expectations on your relationship, it might end up more Greek tragedy than romantic comedy. A good relationship should not complete you; it should inspire and challenge you to work on filling in the cracks on a daily basis.
… More Marriage is not for all – Marriage is not by force
I was at a friend’s mother’s 60th birthday party some years back and some things were said about the woman. When her husband was called to give a speech about her, he recounted how she was supportive and held the family even when there were times he couldn’t hold the forth. He recounted how she single handedly made sure their children were never out of school at any particular time. She was patient and gentle, never demanding or nagging and I see how tolerating she was, still is. Despite the ups and downs that didn’t seem like were meant for her, she chose to stay happily married. … More …Thin line between patience and weakness…
The flavours flavours the bottom of of pan … More The bottom of my pan