The road to success is not pretty, but it is worth it

Success is like the torch you light in the presence of wind. Frustrations, discouragements, falls and disappointments are like the wind. They all want to put that fire out. You know what, NO ONE else is going to guard and keep that flame burning for you but you. Everyone else has their race to run and their flames to watch over till it guides them to their 10seconds of fame. But those hours, thousands of hours, sweat, tears and moments you so badly wanted to give up, no one cares about that. No one wants to know. They only appreciate the finished product. They only want to associate with the successful you. So you owe it to yourself, it’s the contract you signed with yourself, to make it against the odds.

So that road to success is not pretty, the tension, anger, tenacity and passion you put into it isn’t pretty either but hey, when you look back on it and ask yourself, “will I do this again?” your answer will always be “hell yes”. Because it was all you, all of your potential, all of your dreams, all of your effort, all of your sleepless nights and days when you never gave up on yourself. That moment when it amounts to something tangible, something worth showcasing, you know it was worth it. When you look back on it and realize it couldn’t have been uglier, that’s when you know it was worth every disappointment. You only needed a little determination, a little doing and belief in yourself. … More The road to success is not pretty, but it is worth it

Rate this:

People who love each other don’t stay angry with each other

The beauty of my life!

My daughter: Mommy, welcome. (Holds out the door for me)

Me: (Tired and stressed from work) How are you?

My daughter: I’m fine. (Gives me a big smile)

Me: (I couldn’t help but smile back)

My daughter: Mommy, carry me.

Me: (I obey).

My daughter: (She kisses me) Mommy, we should have a cool secret greeting.

Me: Ok.

My daughter: She kisses me 3 times on the lip then one kiss each on my cheeks.

Me: (I smile). That’s cool.

My daughter: (She smiles) Let’s do it again.

Me to my son: Should we try it too?

My son: (He wants to but he was shy but kisses me on the lip and cheeks too).

My daughter: I love you. You are my best mommy ever (She hugs me tight again as I put her down.

Me: I love you too. You are my best daughter ever. (Smiles).

Later in the night, after dinner and baths,

Me: It’s time for bed.

My daughter: But I don’t want to sleep now.

Me: Please go to bed (changing my face)

My daughter: (Grumbles to bed).

Me: (I tuck them in).

My daughter: (Comes down from bed first to drink water, then to pee after the initial pee, then to pick her teddy, then to drink water again …) Me: (Getting angry) You need to stop coming out of bed and go to sleep.

My daughter: (Does her usual puppy face) But you said you loved me

Me: And so?

My daughter: People who love each other don’t stay angry with each other

Me: People who love each other don’t upset each other.

Morale of the story – While getting angry may be normal, love ought to make it difficult to stay angry at those who are dare to our hearts. My little girl talks some sweet realities sometimes.

Have a lovely evening people.
More People who love each other don’t stay angry with each other

Rate this:

6 Signs Your Wife Is Totally Fed Up With You

In any marriage or long-term relationship, you have to stay present. Unfortunately, far too many men take their partner’s satisfaction in the relationship for granted, said Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, a marriage and family therapist and the author of A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage: The Essentials for Long-Lasting Togetherness.

Many men don’t notice when their wives have disengaged. Some wives wait to see if their spouses will care and notice the telling behavior. Husbands clearly need to take the initiative and engage.

Below, Gilchrest O’Neill and other marriage therapists share some of the most revealing signs that wives have emotionally checked out of their marriages.

She seems to have changed overnight:
Marriage therapist Becky Whetstone said that husbands often come into her office and tell her that their wives’ demeanor has changed, seemingly overnight. All too often, they haven’t picked up on illuminating indicators that their wives are fed up.

“While trying to improve the marriage, she may have made requests of him that have been ignored, waved and danced around,” Whetstone said. “In most cases, the wife has reached a point where she has decided to turn her back on the marriage due to frustration and disillusionment with her husband.” … More 6 Signs Your Wife Is Totally Fed Up With You

Rate this:

6 Signs Your Husband Has Checked Out Of Your Marriage

All too often, husbands who come into marriage therapist Becky Whetstone’s office have already experienced what she calls an “emotional divorce.” “Sometimes, people get so fed up and disgruntled, there’s a disconnection process,” she said. “When that happens, the husband will mostly be apathetic about their partner and the relationship as a whole. That’s when an emotional divorce takes place.”

Below, Whetstone and other marriage therapists share some of the most telling signs that a husband has emotionally checked out of their marriage. (Note that either spouse could experience these problems ― but therapists say men tend to bring them up more often.) These signs however may apply to both parties in a marriage.

1.He’s hypercritical of everything you do:

When you’re in love, you overlook certain personality quirks your spouse possesses. You forgive them for every oversight or mistake. In other words, in most instances, you’re generous toward them.
More 6 Signs Your Husband Has Checked Out Of Your Marriage

Rate this:

A Classic: Kiss

You don’t have to be beautiful

To turn me on

You don’t need experience

To turn me out

You don’t have to be rich

To be my girl

You don’t have to be cool

To rule my world

Ain’t no particular sign I’m more compatible with

I just want your extra time and your …

Women not girls rule my world

I said they rule my world

You don’t have to watch Dynasty

To have an attitude

You just leave it all up to me

My love will be your food

You don’t have to be beautiful

To turn me on

You don’t need experience

To turn me out

You don’t have to be rich

To be my girl

You don’t have to be cool

To rule my world

Ain’t no particular sign I’m more compatible with

I just want your extra time and your …

Kiss.
More A Classic: Kiss

Rate this:

The significance of impression management in a relationship

Let’s face it. We all try to impress others – to put our best foot forward, to try to be a witty conversationalist, and to get people to like us. It’s called impression management. If you’ve been doing that and beating yourself up about being an attention seeker, guess what, you’re absolutely normal. Impression management … More The significance of impression management in a relationship

Rate this: