I know I once said I don’t mind being friends with an ex and maybe I wasn’t thinking with the possibility that the other person might be a psycho. Or maybe not a psycho, maybe just a heartbroken person who’s out to take vengeance on you or deliberately hurt you in return. Really, no matter how seemingly nice someone is, there’s no telling how they can be when a lovely relationship turns soar, or worse, when there’s a breakup. Thinking of it now, I wouldn’t blame some people who would rather keep certain information to themselves till marriage, when they are sure there’s some sort of security eventually. … More Cruel Things People Say During a Breakup
Being single is not a reason to stay indoors on weekends or public holidays. You deserve to have fun irrespective of whether you have a partner or not. This is not the time to be gloomy and sad about your single status. Rather, it is the time to get up and explore the world around you. There are so many fun things to do by your self this period of your life. Some of them include:
Most single people find the idea of taking themselves out on a date very awkward. Although it may seem strange, it is one of the best ways to find happiness alone. There are so many places you can go on a date all by yourself. One of the best options is to go to a hotel near you and treat yourself to a nice and affordable buffet. Sheraton Lagos Hotel, for instance, offers tasty and mouth watery buffet to guests at an affordable price. … More 6 Cool Things to do if you are Single
Nifemi’s father couldn’t to accept defeat. He wasn’t financially buoyant to take responsibility to excuse his daughter out of an early marital resort. As he sat there, carefully putting his thoughts together to form the right words, he couldn’t help but blame himself for allowing the situation deteriorate to such an extent. Little wonder Nifemi’s mother deemed it fit to give their daughter to a rich married man who would take care of her. Then she in turn gave herself to a better alternative.
Pa Jide and Mama Savage sat quietly on the three-sitter cushion. They had come as a favor to Nifemi to help break the news to her parents. As elders in the family, they stayed to make sure that while scolding and chastising her, the best decision on the matter is taken. Needless to say, her parents will be far entangled in disappointment and overwhelmed with emotions to take the right decision. Mr. Martins, with a blank face, sat separate from everyone. Mr. Adeniji rose up suddenly and entered the bedroom. He emerged a few seconds later, holding ‘a finely-skinned long bamboo stick’ in the grip of his hand. … More Story telling: Series 2
Men are streamlined. They are ready to go anytime, anywhere. Women are naturally complex. Men can be compared men to microwaves and women to slow cookers. If you want to warm up that slow cooker, there are certain things you must do.
Let your wife be a woman, and show your appreciation.
You married that woman because you were attracted to her differences, including the fact that she cared enough to ask you questions about yourself and your day. So let her be different. Allow her to be the communications expert she naturally is. Yes, she may be fussy about details and sometimes have bad timing but that fussiness and commitment to improving your relationship make her who she is. It is part of that mystique you fell in love with in the first place. … More Earning special moments with your wife
Relationships sometimes don’t go the way we’ve programmed it in our minds because we’re unable to 100% put the other person before ourselves. By nature, humans are selfish which would have been a good thing except that there are situations where selfishness has beclouded our judgment of togetherness and true love.
An example is a home situation where the husband is the bread winner while his wife stays at home all day to run the house. The man gets in late at night tired and cranky. This is the norm and because his wife doesn’t want to upset him any further, she thinks she’s being considerate by letting him be. Over time, the wife develops a thick skin and is able to go months without intimacy and the husband’s mood doesn’t change. During a counselling session, when the husband was asked why he is so cranky all the time, he laments that his wife hasn’t been “receptive”. Now the wife is seated wondering at what point did she reject him or not care for him or did not show interest in being with him. … More Light up your relationship
The afternoon was cold and windy. The rains poured heavily outside, the streets were deserted from the fierceness of it. It was as though the world was aware that the heavens were falling. The weather told the story of what was happening in Mr. Adeniji’s house. Though midday, it was drearily dark and desolate, as though the masquerades of the spirits of the dead have indeed come to haunt the so-called notable families. The clouds were dark; the ground was pulsating from the thundering rain with fearful thunder claps, and lightning crowning the air with tension. … More Story telling: Series 1
It’s not only sad but it is heart-piercing when I read different relationship issues, marriage issues on social media and you find more women than men seeking advice, ranting and begging for solutions on how to get it together again, with or without their spouses.
A pastor once prayed for the happiness of a troubled couple. He says whether it be together or in separation, happiness and peace of mind is the most important thing. Now this is a contradictory prayer you’ll often hear from pastors or Christians. As much as we want to play holy and be without blame, in most cases, we often neglect the truth of the issue to address it accordingly. No two marriages are the same, therefore, no one solution will apply to both. If only the church will be as realistic as the issues most marriages face, I believe there won’t be so much confused people on social media seeking advice from total strangers and hoping to get genuine answers. … More When does a marital issue become a public affair?